CristaAnne.com breaks into the Top Ten Sex Blogging Superheroes of 2015!!

So proud of my little blog that could…

#MedicatedandMighty selfie

#MedicatedandMighty 

When introducing myself in panels, workshops or in interviews I’ll often call myself “a professional oversharer who has blogged since long before the term “blog” even existed.” Starting with angelfire sites in the late 90’s and then LiveJournal, blogger and other platforms – writing online has been a natural comfort zone for my ambiverted self. As I moved through my journey of self discovery I tried out many urls and personas, looking for the perfect fit. Eventually it was obvious that I was most comfortable as myself, so I picked up this domain with the intention of it being a small personal blog and writing outlet.

About a year ago I began writing more about my battles with depression and PTSD which quickly turned into #OrgasmQuest. My little blog that could had worldwide media attention, my life changed permanently. When The Madness hit our life (the custody battle that consumed most of this year) I had to back off posting here for many reasons. For months this site was almost exclusively instagram posts and very sporadic brief updates while we made our way through our worst fears come to life.

While I was unable to speak about my life in a public way, you amazing folks stuck with me. Love and support flowed our way through and after the worst of the worst – I am forever grateful. Right as I began to return to the world, Kinkly launched their Top 100 Sex Blogging Superheroes of 2015 contest. Shamelessly I courted votes without a ton of expectations, my life and thus my writing had not been very sexy. My goal was top fifty, my hope was top twenty-five.

When the results were released a few days ago, I almost dropped my pad.

The Top 100 Sex Blogging Superheroes of 2015:

  1. The Black Pomegranate
  2. The Redhead Bedhead
  3. A Sexy Woman of a Certain Age
  4. Oh Joy, Sex Toy
  5. Girly Juice
  6. Crista Anne (!!!!!!!!!!!!!)
  7. Hey Epiphora
  8. Girl Boner
  9. Slutty Girl Problems
  10. The Ins and Outs

The rest of the Top 100

Crista Anne bills herself as a “rainbow-colored pleasure revolutionary.” We love that slogan as much as her bold writing on sex, depression and everything in between.

Credit where credit is due, my moniker of “Rainbow-colored Pleasure Revolutionary” was bequeathed to me by Carol Queen in the Good Vibes #OrgasmQuest interview. It’s perfect. When my writing is praised as being bold and unique – my goals have been achieved.

It’s taken me a few days to find words of gratitude. 2015 has been the hardest, most painfully soul wrenching year of my life. The darkness that covered so much of this year got the best of me more often than I care to admit. While I count down the days to the end of ’15 so I can put this horrific year behind me, this recognition means a great deal.

Thank you.

Let’s Talk About Sex and Depression Article

LET’S TALK ABOUT SEX AND DEPRESSION

Imagine for a moment that I took away your ability to enjoy sex. It’s just gone. Now in order to get it back, you would have to declare that you belong to two categories of people who are regularly stigmatized in pop culture. While you are dealing with this, you may also be experiencing feelings of worthlessness, guilt, hopelessness, lethargy, anxiety, and the inability to concentrate. If you can get past all that and reach out for help, there’s a big chance no one will do anything. They may not even believe you.

Welcome to the world of a woman dealing with the sexual side effects of depression and its treatment.

Read the rest of Let’s Talk about Sex & Depression by JoEllen Notte at Bitch

As I said on FB earlier, JoEllen is the Sex & Depression Rockstar and we’re living in her world. Really, it takes all of us speaking out our truths to get a fuller picture of the intersections of pleasure, sex, mental illness and survival. No one story or set of experiences can begin to cover the depth and complexities here, but in the year that this conversation has been one of the centers of my life, amazing progress has been made.

On a purely selfish level, another life goal achieved – mentioned in Bitch. Baby Feminist Depressed Crista is doing backflips with excitement.

Please read this article and share widely. JoEllen’s skills as a writer combined with the incredible data she’s collected are invaluable. Thank you for the #OrgasmQuest shout out love. <3

How to fight with your significant other

How to fight with your significant other:

Some couples set ground rules for their fights. For Crista, 33, of Richmond, Va., her basic rules with her partner are: no name-calling, no door-slamming and no walking away in the middle of a fight. They’ve also imposed brief periods of unplugging, which is challenging for two self-professed “Internet fiends,” so that they can be sure the other person is listening. “When one of us is talking about something sensitive or important, even if it’s just for a minute or two, the other shuts their laptop or puts the tablet down or out of view.”

Read the rest at the Washington Post by Rachel Kramer Bussel

Yes, part of why I’m sharing is because I was interviewed for the piece but also because I love the information and ideas contained within. I’m quoted as Crista, so this is me being me. Being able to disagree and argue is an important part of any relationship, romantic or not. V and I rarely have big fights and I attribute the rarity to the fact that we are constantly working on positive communication. Without positive communication and making sure the other feels heard is how we’ve come through these amazingly hard times as strong as ever.

Quick ‘n Dirty: Where To Find My Words Across The Web

A delightful part of getting back to work is that I get glorious opportunities to add my voice across the web on a variety of topics. One of my great lessons from going viral is that I am a much happier rainbow when my words are part of the story, not the story. Here is where to find my words across the web right now…

I believe these are all that have gone live, with a few more delightful links and projects to come soon. One more link before I’m off, signal boosting an excellent opportunity for emerging writers via Bitch.

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Bitch Media, for almost 20 years an independent, nonprofit feminist media organization, is pleased to announce the Bitch Media Fellowships for Writers, a series of three-month intensive writing fellowships whose goal is to develop, support, and amplify emerging, diverse voices in feminist, activist, and pop-culture media. The program will be directed by Bitch cofounder Andi Zeisler.

The four subject areas are:

  • Reproductive rights & justice
  • Pop-culture criticism
  • Technology
  • Global feminism

Head over to Bitch’s website for the rest of the details. I’m seriously considering applying for one of the Reproductive rights & justice.

Otherwise my darlings, it has been a stressful week for extended and chosen family. I’ve been a bit quiet while helping loves, but as things seem to be improving I’m looking forward to posting regularly.

Shameless Self Promotion: @Kinkly Top 100 Sex Bloggers 2015

Kinkly Top 100 Sex Bloggers 2015 Voting Has Begun!

We’ve said it before and we’ll say it again: Sex bloggers are our superheroes. And we know we aren’t the only ones looking to them for advice. It’s why we do our best to feature their sites in our Sex Blogger Directory and our Sex Blogger of the Month feature, and why we link directly to their sex toy reviews in our Sex Toy Directory. It’s also why we published and promoted the very best sex bloggers we could find in 2013 and 2014. Now it’s that time of year again, and we’re on the hunt for the Sex Blogging Superheroes of 2015. We’re looking for the sparkliest, most well-loved, most sex-positive blogs out there – and we need your help to find them!

Have a favorite sex blogger you want to nominate? Here’s how it works:

  • Find your favorite blogger in our Sex Blogger Directory. (If you’d like to submit your own blog, you can do so here.)
  • Click on your favorite bloggers and click Vote For Me button on their page. You can vote for as many blogs as you’d like, but you’ll only be counted once for each blogger.
  • We’ll read through every blog with at least five votes and choose our top 100 favorites based on writing quality, posting frequency and sex-positive content.
  • Only blogs that receive at least five votes by October 7th, 2015, will be counted!

I have been honored & amazed that this little site of mine has stayed within Kinkly’s Top 100 Blogs in their blogger directory through the chaos, stress and pain that has been 2015 for us. The Madness (Our custody battle) forced a hiatus, stopping #OrgasmQuest and many other projects in their tracks. Since that point my work went from being on the front lines battling various stigmas to working behind the scenes with entities like Woodhull Sexual Freedom Alliance, their Family Matters Project and mentoring other writers.

While I am still recovering from the months of crushing hell, each day I get a bit closer to where I want to be.  Too much continues to be in the air, but I’m not going anywhere. If you’ve enjoyed my work, please take a second to vote for this site. It’s easy-peasy: Click here for my Blogger Profile, then click the lovely pink button that says “click here to vote”! You can vote for as many sites as you like, so I urge you to go through the list and vote for your other favorite sites. (I just cramped a finger voting for all my personal faves!)

My impressive ego thanks you in advance <3

Mentally hugging each and every one of you.

Mentally hugging each and every one of you.

So Thrilled to be Speaking @WoodhullSFA #SFS15

With everything else happening in my life, it’s incredibly important for me to continue working. This year I am branching out and speaking at Woodhull’s Sexual Freedom Summit. (@WoodhullSFA with the hashtag #SFS15) This is thrilling in a number of ways, I’d previously considered the Summit above my “pay grade”. It’s a chance to spend time with so many people I hold dear, not to mention the Summit itself is going to be an absolutely incredible learning experience.

I’ll be speaking with my love JoEllen Notte, & the fantastic Stephen Biggs  on the workshop: “The Monster Under The Bed: Starting the Conversation About Sex and Depression

At some point in every person’s life they will either experience depression or know intimately someone who has depression. Currently the most prevalent forms of treatment are pharmacological, and the focus is often placed on the alleviation of symptoms like low mood, apathy and amotivation. Relief in any of these areas constitutes success, however, for some there are unwanted sexual side effects to treatment, which unfortunately are seldom addressed. Similarly, when sex is affected by symptoms of the depression itself, the issue is rarely addressed at all. This workshop will discuss how sex-lives are impacted by depression symptoms and current treatments, with a view to empowering both clients and professionals to better address the issues that arise when sex and depression collide.  Specifically, we will share the results of JoEllen Notte’s Sex and Depression Survey and follow up interviews conducted over several months beginning in the Fall of 2014.  Incorporating both mental health consumers’ perspectives and the most current information regarding treatment impacts and side effects on sexual functioning we hope to provide consumers and their sexual partners with practical information that can help them give voice to their concerns.  It is our hope that the information we’re gathering will also inform the way health care providers provide a space for sexual concerns in the treatment of depression, and we also hope to offer some concrete practical direction in this regard.

When: Friday, August 14
Where: Walnut B

I’ll be sharing much of my experience with #OrgasmQuest along side JoEllen’s findings and Stephen’s expertise, with a strong focus on finding a health care provider who respects the importance of sexuality while treating mental illness. This workshop is going to be incredible, so make your plans for attending and put us on your Must Attend list.

(Also, having my own speaker page along side the rest of the absolutely incredible people who will be there makes me want to attempt a backflip of joy, even though I’d wreck myself.)

 

I Cannot Explain It, but I can Orgasm Again! #OrgasmQuest @JimmyJane & @SheVibe

Perhaps this level of stress has broken my brain? I don’t know why, but I’m reliably having Orgasms with #OrgasmQuest..

Don't ask me, I'm just a queernicorn

Don’t ask me, I’m just a queernicorn

My menstrual cycle is over, my medications have not changed even through this period of extreme stress. No changes in diet as I have friends and loves who remind me to eat when I forget. I have no real explanation for the how or why, but I’m having orgasms. Consistently now.

They are not the Universe Creating, touching the divine orgasms that I previously easily achieved, but they are glorious. Perhaps there is a god and she loves me? I’ve broken my brain operating through this much stress and processing trauma? If anything I would think that my body would be even less likely to process the orgasm, yet here I am.

Yesterday, on a whim, I attempted solo manual stimulation for the first time in weeks and had a delightful orgasm within minutes. The Magic Wand can get me off so quickly there isn’t time to fantasize or get into the experience. Not quite to the point I was at where I could work my PC muscles into a hands free orgasm, but it feels fucking fantastic.

So, I’ve delved into my collection of Quest Items. Let’s talk JimmyJane Form 5 shall we?

Yes, I am officially a fan!

Yes, I am officially a fan!

I’m enamored with this delightful product. When it isn’t being use as intended, I find myself fiddling with it as I write or respond to messages. When I requested to try it out, my main interest was to expand beyond the basic vibes I’ve always relied upon. Using the Form 5 in masturbation (I’ve yet to use it within partnered sex contexts, but that will happen.) is fun! With liberal use of Sliquid h20, I’m pretty sure I could spend hours twirling the supple wings up, down and over my labia. As I have an exceptionally sensitive clitoris, I find the inner bump, or pleasure dome to be perfection with moderate pressure.

Shockingly, I don’t find myself annoyed by the vibration modes. Usually options I don’t even bother with. They’re fun to play with, I find switching between them easy – even with lubed fingers that do not grip well. In the end I could live without them, but unlike 90% of the other vibes I’ve used with patterns, they don’t frustrate me. That’s saying a lot. While I don’t review often, this pussy has experienced more sex toys than I could begin to count.

While not an inexpensive item, if all of my money wasn’t going to a gorram custody battle, I’d be willing to fork over $145 for a delightful, unique and tap dancing dildo gods pleasurable product like the Form 5.

As always, I point you to SheVibe’s page for all the finer details of the Form 5. They do such a wonderful job giving their customers easy to understand information on their products. In case you missed the links before – Check the Form 5 Out Here.

This is the Greatest Header In The History Of Ever

This is the Greatest Header In The History Of Ever

 Disclaimer/Disclosure: SheVibe sent me this delightful vibe in exchange for an honest review, which is exactly what this is. Should you make the wise decision to buy any one for yourself, or any of their other fantastic offerings via my links, I will get a small commission from those sales. That amount of money is not enough to sway the views I’ve expressed here. If you are overwhelmed by your options, I have spent many years working in sex toy retail. You can contact me with questions or to set up a time for us to chat about your sexual accessory needs.

 

Life Goal Completed – I Am a SheVibe Superhero

#OrgasmQuest has gone so far beyond my wildest dreams. Interviewed by Carol Queen. Front page of a number of my favorite sites and blogs. New wonderful friends. Now. Now I’m a Motherfucking SheVibe Superhero and I can cross another item off my list of Life Goals. BEHOLD! Continue reading

MicroBlogging: She Had Me At Unicorn Hustle

#AlwaysBeAUnicorn

#AlwaysBeAUnicorn

The other night Dr Drew’s show on HLN rebroadcast the #OrgasmQuest interview as part of a show on sex, which was mildly disorienting. A few folks on twitter thought it was live (understandably) and were tweeting at me about what “I had just said on TV”.  Now I am the first to admit that I can be a bit of a flake – I hardly remember what I said two hours ago – let alone a few weeks ago. Had to re-watch some of the segments to refresh myself. Opted not to argue with a few folks, and was a little annoyed until Avery Simone (@UnicornHustle) crossed my path. She’s a very fun follow and was kind enough to add a post on her site that’s delightful. Here’s Unicorn Hustle’s take on #OrgasmQuest!

Back With a New #OrgasmQuest Piece in @Mamalode

Ah, Greetings Darlings!

I took a little unscheduled break from posting, that migraine last week knocked me sideways. When I eventually recovered I felt like I had been out of commission for weeks instead of the two days that it actually was. Then we had an intense parenting load with bonus rare for the area snow storm. Have been as interactive as possible on twitter, but needed a little break from #OrgasmQuest so I didn’t completely burn out.

#OrgasmQuest is back with a new piece in Mamalode!

#OrgasmQuest by Mamalode graphic

#OrgasmQuest by Mamalode graphic

One Mom’s Quest for an Orgasm – This essay ended up being much harder than I anticipated.  I am naturally verbose and trying to condense how I got to #OrgasmQuest plus a bit about how Quest has been received into 500-ish words was far more difficult than I imagined. Worth the effort though, I really appreciate the chance to talk to a different audience. Parents, other Moms in particular, are often in this boat and the stigmas around mental illness & sexuality can be even more suffocating when you’re in a parental role. Thus far the essay seems to be getting a warm reception – Welcome to my world Mamalode readers!

Shortly I’ll have a longer #OrgasmQuest update – I’ve been quiet but Quest has been going strong. JoEllen, The Redhead Bedhead, and I also have teamed up for an important PSA about the ongoing conversation about Sex & Depression. The break was a lovely mini vacation, I’m back recharged and thrilled about the coming weeks. Keep an eye on this space, glory is about to happen.

#OrgasmQuest on #GirlBoner Radio & Unboxing of @AshleyManta Love!

While I planned on writing a long piece tonight on a few topics about #OrgasmQuest, the day I had just wiped me completely out. Hopefully tomorrow I’ll have my words back, but now, they are gone. So! I’ve collected all the #selfies from my livetweeting the unboxing of Ashley Manta love for you to enjoy. But first…

#OrgasmQuest on Girl Boner Radio!!!

Another side effect of amitriptyline is dry mouth, which some days makes it really hard for me to speak. Journalists, this is part of why I ask for email interviews versus phone. (Also, my son takes me being on the phone as a personal affront.) Even though I am guzzling water before and through this interview, the dry mouth got me a few times which was frustrating. It’s really hard to make your mouth form words when it feels stuck together. Anyway! We got through it and had a fantastic chat. Really hope that August McLaughlin has me on again, because chatting with her is an absolute joy, one of the highlights of my week. Download the podcast here!

Now, on to the sex toy #selfies!

Want some of these glorious items? Clear your cookies and then click below, the Tantus Duke, Feeldoe Slim, Realdoe, and Echo are all featured above. Also, you can get a Realdoe in the slim size! As Tantus is glorious, 15% off your purchase with the code #OrgasmQuest.

Use discount code "#OrgasmQuest" to get 15% off your entire order!

Use discount code “#OrgasmQuest” to get 15% off your entire order!

#OrgasmQuest Update & Crista Anne on Girl Boner Radio!

#OrgasmQuest update for today is good news/bad news…

Let’s get the bad news out-of-the-way first. The exciting results of It was a Team Effort, but we have Orgasm! were not duplicated two nights in a row. I was incredibly tired, so I opted to go the strictly Magic Wand route, put in my standard 15 minutes of super pleasurable Me Time, then turned it off to pass out. Could be that I need internal and external stimulation to get over the edge, could be that I was just too exhausted to orgasm. Again, masturbation still feels amazing, there simply wasn’t the climax at the end. As I’ve said many times, I don’t expect to get through anorgasmia easily, so this isn’t a shocker. Of course, I’ll try again tonight with the internal/external combo if possible and we’ll see what happens.

With that out-of-the-way, on to the good news!

#OrgasmQuest and I will be on Girl Boner Radio today. This may be one of my favorite names for a sex related show ever. Subscribe to the podcast now, and obviously I’ll let you know when it’s available to download. Here is the Girl Boner Website. We’re going to cover #OrgasmQuest origin story, how people have responded positively and negatively, my recent success and where Quest is going from here. It shall be grand and glorious.

Here, to close, have a #Selfie of not awake Crista and her Superhero Jess <3

This is the famous Jess, she saves my ass so I can work again.

This is the famous Jess, she saves my ass so I can work again.

Really, how cool is this? – Good Vibes Gift of Pleasure

 

 

 

Good Vibes Valentine’s Day Goodness

The beauty of this huge banner sparked this post, my days in sex toy retail left me with a deep appreciation of things few others care about. Awesome merchandising in stores or trade show booths, a deep appreciation for attractive packaging that keeps people from opening boxes in the store without making it impossible to open at home, and lovely promotional materials. Take the Crista out of the sex shop, but you never take the outlaw dildo peddler out of Crista. At the same time – woah am I pleased to not be working behind the counter right now because the pre-Valentines Day rush in shops is absurd. Buy online if you can y’all, it can be like Black (pink?) friday in shops as the day approaches.

This deal – spend $100 and get a $15 Gift Card – ends on the 5th, so allow me to offer some suggestions on how to fill your cart quickly? Thanks, you’re awesome. First, clear your browser cookies so my links get credit. Done? Fantastic, you’re a peach. Now, let’s do this..

  • Get that gift card in one easy step by adding a Pure Wand to your basket. That beautiful item you see in many of my pictures. I treasure my pure wand so much I’ve named her Vera. (If you don’t get the reference, watch this. Then after you’re done shopping watch the entirety of Firefly so you catch most of the jokes I make.) The Pure Wand is sleek and heavy, made of polished stainless steel. Each end has a different sized bulb so you can warm up with one, then move to the bigger if you choose. Wonderful for G and P spot stimulation, this is the sex toy that reminded me that “Yes Crista, you can squirt”. Don’t stop with the Pure Wand though, add some Please Cream Lubricant before you check out because quality lube makes even the best toy better.
  • The Vesper by Crave, which is an exquisite necklace and a slim vibrator all in one. Now, I don’t have one of these yet, but I have a mighty need for one. My friends, whose opinions I trust, have wonderful things to say. This is a lovely option if you’re looking for something that covers both jewelry and sexiness. Over the years I’ve seen a number of companies try to create a vibrator necklace, this is the first one that I’ve looked at and then made grabby hands at the screen.
  • Mona 2 Rechargeable G-Spot Vibrator . Again, an item I do not own (yet) but have a mighty need for. Silicone-covered, premium-quality vibe can be recharged for up to four hours of use. A curvy, sleek, mid-size toy designed for external or G-spot stimulation, Mona provides full sensation and allows you to choose the intensity, with six variable modes so you can ramp up or start out with strong vibrations. Mona comes in red silicone, with a white ABS plastic handle/control panel. Comes with its charging unit. I wants, oh how I wants.

That’s just my brief list of what I would do with this offer, but check out Good Vibes to see a vast array of glorious options. This is their gift of pleasure Valentine’s Day Gift Guide, and I nod my head with approval as I look over the list. If you’re still not sure what to get and would like to set up a time with me to help you shop: send me a message through my Contact Page. I’m a professional, and helping people shop for sexual accessories is one of my favorite things to do. (A donation for my time here is appreciated but not required.)

Happy shopping my darlings!

Ps. Buy Lube with ever purchase. Lube, lube and more lube.

Ps. Buy Lube with every purchase. Lube, lube and more lube.

 

 

I Swing into Life on the Swingset podcast with #OrgasmQuest

#OrgasmQuest takes over Life on the Swingset!!

swingsetthumb“The Swingset welcomes back Crista Anne to discuss her recent commitment to herself; to find a path back to self-orgasm through once a day masturbation. Through her very personal and public #OrgasmQuest Crista is documenting her navigation through life-long depression, antidepressants, self-care, living and loving life and parenting and today she shares it all with us, and we share our stories with her.”

On a personal note, over the last few months the Swingset Crew (as I like to think of them) have become some of my dearest friends. While I have been a fan of the podcast for a long time, only recently have we connected personally & professionally to make some really fantastic content & conversations. This is by far my favorite podcast that I’ve done. Let me give you a peek behind the scenes.. Continue reading